High emotional arousal during live poker

MrNiceMrNice Red Chipper Posts: 104 ✭✭
Hello dear poker friends,

I played a few freerolls live in a poker club. I was very aroused, had headache and didnt have a clear thought process. I was very stressed even when I wasnt envolved. Is this normal?

I also wanted to play another tournament, where I was asked to buy a plasticcard for 50$, which could later be exchanged for prices. I felt like they tried to scam me cause I was new to live and they probably realised that. I didnt bought anything and left the game.

For what should I be cautios when selecting where to play? It seemed kinda shady to me to pay 50$ for a worthless card to enter an explicit marked game as a freeroll.

Thanks for your advice.

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  • TheGameKatTheGameKat Posts: 2,142 -
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    Interesting. I suffer from social anxiety in many situations, but a poker table is one of the few where I feel comfortable. That said, when I started playing live in casinos I was a wreck, so it may simply be something that improves with repetition.
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  • chip_hoggchip_hogg Red Chipper Posts: 80 ✭✭
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    This absolutely happens to me too. It gets better over time, though.

    At my home game (10c/25c), I never feel this way anymore---I feel right at home. When I go to the casino to play 1/2 or 1/3---still pretty rare for bankroll reasons---it takes me a while to settle in.

    For me, it helped to be explicit about my goals. I was going to the casino, yes, to have a chance to make money, but also to get more comfortable playing in card rooms by getting more experience. Understanding my goals gave me the clarity to play a bit tighter preflop, and fold the "tilt detectors" I get dealt without breaking a sweat.

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  • MrNiceMrNice Red Chipper Posts: 104 ✭✭
    TheGameKat wrote: »
    This always happens when you play live?

    Yes, I then get stressed just by sitting at the poker table. I always need like 30 minutes after the session to cool down.
  • blindraiseblindraise Red Chipper Posts: 184 ✭✭
    Get plenty of rest and eat a healthy meal before you sit down. Drink water while you play, if it'll make you feel better have a beer. Focus not on the quality of your play but your opponents, take the attention off yourself and you will eventually become comfortable.
  • RoblivionRoblivion WisconsinRed Chipper Posts: 288 ✭✭✭
    edited April 22
    How much exposure have you gotten to live play? It may just work itself out with time. I used to be nervous when I first started playing, but eventually that went away. Chewing gum can also be an outlet for some minor nervous energy.

    Also, remind yourself that your opponents are not world class players - they are most likely just experienced fish that you do not need to worry about looking dumb in front of .
  • MrNiceMrNice Red Chipper Posts: 104 ✭✭
    TheGameKat wrote: »
    Interesting. I suffer from social anxiety in many situations, but a poker table is one of the few where I feel comfortable. That said, when I started playing live in casinos I was a wreck, so it may simply be something that improves with repetition.

    As said, I found it very difficult to have a clear mind. I felt overwelmed. How did you prepare for live games?
  • MrNiceMrNice Red Chipper Posts: 104 ✭✭
    edited April 22
    This is interesting. Usually I play on the weekends because it takes me awhile to wind down after a session. Recently, I have been trying to play more so I added Thursday nights to the mix and realized that if I leave at say 8, get home around 830, I can't really wind down til 11 or 12. I run through spots in my head and it makes it tough to sleep. For that reason, I try to avoid the weekdays.

    Thanks for your shared experience. I had the same issues as you. May be I am currently not ready to play live poker. The arousal was very intense, like a lion was chasing me (Although I wasnt involved in a hand, but that didnt made any big difference on my mental abilites). How do you analyse your sessions afterwards?

    I was also unable to speak anyone during the session (What I avoided for tell reasons), but after I didnt play anymore it was very easy to express myself.

    I`m glad there are some people who can relate to a beginner in live cash :-)

  • Paul_KPaul_K DFWRed Chipper Posts: 319 ✭✭✭
    I'd suggest a safari adventure (you may have to visit the dark web for this) where you can arrange to actually have a lion chase you through the Sahara. If you make it back, poker should be a piece of cake after that.

    Your problem isn't uncommon and should ease with time, but you could be an extreme case. Use tactical breathing, meditation, etc... @DrTricia has a ton of resources for you, including a free podcast.
  • MrNiceMrNice Red Chipper Posts: 104 ✭✭
    Paul_K wrote: »
    I'd suggest a safari adventure (you may have to visit the dark web for this) where you can arrange to actually have a lion chase you through the Sahara. If you make it back, poker should be a piece of cake after that.

    Your problem isn't uncommon and should ease with time, but you could be an extreme case. Use tactical breathing, meditation, etc... @DrTricia has a ton of resources for you, including a free podcast.

    I meant it symbolicaly. There I feel very strong arousal as were as I dont know a lot of situations that cause such a huge emotional distress just by being there.

    I already watched her products, they seem to be helpful. I also look out for improvment or what specific I want to improve in my next session before it starts on the way there on the train.
  • TheGameKatTheGameKat Posts: 2,142 -
    MrNice wrote: »
    TheGameKat wrote: »
    Interesting. I suffer from social anxiety in many situations, but a poker table is one of the few where I feel comfortable. That said, when I started playing live in casinos I was a wreck, so it may simply be something that improves with repetition.

    As said, I found it very difficult to have a clear mind. I felt overwelmed. How did you prepare for live games?

    Repetition. Eventually I realized at an emotional level that a poker table is a highly controlled social environment and I wasn't compelled to do anything other than clearly indicate my poker action.
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